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October 21, 2007

Practice Genuine Purity
Gregory T. Pouncey

Matthew 15:1-20
 

Before the Session

 

Make copies of the Pure In Heart handout. Bring enough for learners and visitors to have their own copies.

 

 

Are You Disobedient? (Matt. 15:1-3)

 

Read aloud Matthew 15:1-3. Define the following two terms:

  • Tradition of the elders (15:2)- A reference to the oral laws that the Pharisees placed on an equal par with Scripture. These laws eventually appeared in the Mishnah and carried the same weight as Scripture to the Pharisees. The specific tradition that Jesus’ disciples violated were ceremonial washings that appeared shortly before the time of Jesus.
  • God’s commandment (15:4)- Clearly revealed instructions that appear in the Scriptures. Jesus contrasted the traditions of the elders with the clearly revealed commandments such as the commandment to honor your father and mother.

Ask:

  • How can you distinguish traditions from commandments?
  • Why is it important that your traditions are flexible but your commandments are unwavering?
  • How did the Pharisees break God’s commandment because of their tradition?
  • What are ways that tradition has stood in your way of keeping God’s commandment?

Read the excerpt from Christianity Today:

The Tradition Temptation: Why we should still give Scripture pride of place

Roger E. Olson

November 1, 2003

LIKE MANY EVANGELICALS, I grew up in a church that objected to "tradition," which we associated with dead orthodoxy. A furor erupted in the church office when the new, young associate pastor suggested that the Sunday worship folder contain a minimal order of worship. We disdained formality and embraced the spontaneity of the Spirit in worship. Or so we liked to think. The associate pastor's suggestion was rejected on the ground that printed orders of worship led to liturgy and liturgy was tradition. Some in the congregation whispered that the associate pastor was losing his zeal by attending seminary. The young minister yielded, but he pointed out that he was giving in to their tradition of rejecting liturgy and embracing informal, unplanned worship. He also said that since our worship services were pretty routine, we should help visitors by printing our normal order and then allow the Spirit to move within it.

The associate pastor's argument didn't sway the congregation, but it planted new thoughts about tradition in my mind. Had we developed our own traditions, including a tradition of rejecting whatever we perceived as the traditions of other churches that were not "full gospel" (as we called our type of church)?

Like the church I grew up in, numerous evangelical churches like to think that tradition is a Spirit-quenching fire extinguisher. But the matter of tradition is more complex than my home church imagined at the time, and I have come to appreciate much of the tradition handed on to us from the church's past. Nevertheless, I am troubled and remain concerned when evangelicals start touting "tradition" as a way forward in our faith, as many are doing today.

Source: www.ctlibrary.com/10708

Ask:

  • When is tradition helpful for the Christian? When does it become unhelpful?
  • How do you judge a tradition and its usefulness?

 

 

Are You Dishonest? (Matt. 15:4-9)

 

Have learners read Matthew 15:4-9 and determine what commandment the Pharisees violated and what tradition they used to violate it.

  • Commandment: Honor your father and mother and speaking evil of father and mother (Exodus 20:12, 21:17).
  • Tradition: Neglecting to take care of one’s own parents in order to give everything to the temple.

Ask:

  • How was their tradition dishonest and hypocritical?
  • How did Jesus use Isaiah’s prophecy to speak to this situation in Matthew 15:8-9?

Read the excerpt from Christianity Today that deals with honesty:

Being Honest with God

Alexander C. DeJong

October 1, 1981

Beth was young, only 28. She was graduated from college with honors. She taught two years in a Christian school, had two small daughters, a husband-and cancer. Her doctor described it as terminal.

She became more and more disheartened. Behind polite smiles were guilt, resentment, fear, and brooding apathy. When asked one day by an elder, "Are you ever angry with God?", she replied with a small smile, "No, I may not be angry with God, my Heavenly Father. He knows best!"

It sounded pious. The words appeared theologically sound. The elder felt good, and he was able to report glowingly about her submission, trust, and surrender.

But Beth's words were not honest. They did not come from her deep-down self. She played a successful role as a good church member, but she continued to be an unhappy, angry, resentful, guilt-laden daughter of God.

The Father who counts the hairs of our heads and the malignant cells in our bodies wants to hear how his child really feels. In fact, he doesn't mind when his child lets him have it. He's big enough and experienced enough to take it.

Source: www.ctlibrary.com/12980

Ask:

  • How did Beth respond out of her tradition rather than honestly?
  • Even though we often think of hypocrites as those who commit some great sin, how was Beth’s response hypocritical?
  • What would be the blessings that would come from Beth living more honestly?

 

 

Are You Blind? (Matt. 15:10-14)

 

Read Matthew 15:10-14 and explain that the Pharisees paid so much attention to the externals that they ignored the root of the problem. According to their traditions, the Pharisees paid more attention to the ceremonial requirements than they did the moral standards deeply embedded in the heart. This blinded them to the truth.

How do the following things reflect a deeper heart issue?

  • Using profanity?
  • Abusing drugs?
  • Bitterness toward another person?
  • Procrastinating?
  • Apathy toward spiritual matters?

Tell of Ron Sider’s article about hypocrisy in the Evangelical church:

The Evangelical Scandal

Ron Sider says the movement is riddled with hypocrisy, and that it's time for serious change.

Ron Sider has been a burr in the ethical saddle of the evangelical world for decades. His 1977 book, Rich Christians in an Age of Hunger, took fellow believers to task for materialism in the face of desperate global needs. Sider, who is professor of theology, holistic ministry, and public policy at Eastern Baptist Theological Seminary, has just released a new jeremiad: The Scandal of the Evangelical Conscience (Baker Books, 2005). In it, Sider plays off Mark Noll's critique of American evangelicalism's anti-intellectualism in The Scandal of the Evangelical Mind. Sider says the current crisis encompasses both mind and heart. Stan Guthrie, Christianity Today's senior associate news editor, interviewed Sider.

What troubles you the most about evangelicals today?

The heart of the matter is the scandalous failure to live what we preach. The tragedy is that poll after poll by Gallup and Barna show that evangelicals live just like the world. Contrast that with what the New Testament says about what happens when people come to living faith in Christ. There's supposed to be radical transformation in the power of the Holy Spirit. The disconnect between our biblical beliefs and our practice is just, I think, heart-rending.

I'm a deeply committed evangelical. I've been committed to evangelical beliefs and to renewing the evangelical church all of my life. And the stats just break my heart. They make me weep. And somehow we must face that reality and change it.

You have often spoken about evangelical failures in society, for example, in Rich Christian in an Age of Hunger. This latest critique covers not only social justice issues but also issues of personal morality. Was that intentional?

I've always been concerned with a whole range of biblical things. My commitment is to be biblically faithful, not to pick out one issue. But a good bit of my writing has dealt with the social issues that have called evangelicals to be more engaged, for example, with questions of poverty here and abroad. But you're right. This book is talking about a range of things that we evangelicals all agree are biblical demands.

Evangelical Christians and born-again Christians get divorced just as often, if not a little more, than the general population. And Barna has discovered that 90 percent of the born-again Christians who are divorced got divorced after they accepted Christ. On sexual promiscuity, we're probably doing a little better than the general population. Josh McDowell has estimated that maybe our evangelical youth are 10 percent better, Lord help us.

So at least it's a measurable difference.

Well it is measurable, although there's not so much hard [data] on that question as with some of the others. John Green, one of the best evangelical pollsters, says that about a third of all evangelicals say that premarital sex is okay. And about 15 percent say that adultery is okay.

Take the issue of racism. A Gallup study discovered that when they asked the question, "Do you object if a black neighbor moves in next door?" the least prejudiced were Catholics and non-evangelicals. The next group, in terms of prejudice, was mainline Protestants. Evangelicals and Southern Baptists were the worst.

Several studies find that physical and sexual abuse in theologically conservative homes is about the same as elsewhere. A large study of the Christian Reformed Church, a member of the NAE, discovered that the frequency of physical and sexual abuse in this evangelical denomination was about the same as in the general population. One recent study, though, suggests that evangelical men who attend church regularly are less likely than the general population to commit domestic violence.

Materialism continues to be an incredible scandal. The average church member [from across the denominations] today gives about 2.6 percent of his or her income—a quarter of a tithe—to the church. Evangelicals used to be quite a lot better [in giving] than mainline denominations. But their giving has declined every year for several decades, and they're now getting very close to the norm. The average evangelical giving is about 4.2 percent—about two-fifths of a tithe.

Six percent of the "born-again" people tithe; nine percent of evangelicals do. Our income has gone up fabulously over the last 30-plus years. The average household income now in the U.S. is $42,000-plus. If the average American Christian tithed, we'd have another $143 billion.

Source: Interview by Stan Guthrie. Available from:  www.christianitytoday.com/ct/2005/april/32.70.html]

Ask:

  • What issues troubled Sider when he compared Evangelical churches to Scripture?
  • What other areas could be issues today?
  • What could explain some of the discrepancies between what Evangelicals believe and what they practice?
  • What did Jesus mean when he said the blind guide the blind (Matt. 15:14)?

 

 

Are You Defiled? (Matt. 15:15-20)

 

Ask learners to read Matthew 15:15-20 and determine the tradition that Jesus called into question with the Pharisees. What commandments might He have referred to in this passage? Ask learners how the following might defile a person:

  • Evil thoughts
  • Murders
  • Thefts
  • False Testimonies

Ask learners why Jesus contrasted the things that come from the heart with the ceremonial traditions of the Pharisees.

Read the excerpt from Christian Single magazine:

Sex & the Single

by Dean Nelson

In the intense, power-driven world of Washington, D.C. Lindsay Morgan said she was surprised at how open people were about their Christian faith when she moved there from California three years ago. Especially in the non-profit sector where she works, the message of justice, peace, reconciliation, forgiveness, and love was embraced and even promoted.

But there is one message from the Christian faith that seems to be a deal-breaker among her peers. For many, it’s enough to toss out the concept all together.

“Nothing screams ‘irrelevant’ to them more than the church’s teaching that you can’t have sex until you’re married,” she explains. “Most of my friends just don’t think it’s realistic or even possible.”

Morgan doesn’t recall ever being taught why sex outside of marriage was wrong, not from her parents or from the evangelical church she grew up in. “It was enough then to be told that the Bible said so,” she says.

Eventually, though, “you outgrow that,” she adds, “and you don’t have anything to replace it with.”

Source: Christian Single, October 2007, p. 28. Reprinted by permission.

Ask:

  • Why is the clear teaching of Scripture not enough for many evangelical Christians today?
  • What cultural messages are singles heeding when they choose sex outside of marriage?
  • Why does purity always begin in the heart?

Encourage learners to take home the poster of Matthew 5:8 to post on their mirror or refrigerator at home. Encourage them to remember that the heart is the starting point of purity and obedience to the Lord’s commandments.

 

 

 

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EXTRA! is a supplement designed to enhance and expand the effectiveness of printed curriculum provided by LifeWay Church Resources.

EXTRA! is produced by Publishing Services and Multimedia, LifeWay Church Resources, Copyright 2007, LifeWay Christian Resources of the Southern Baptist Convention.

SPECIAL NOTE: Some Internet addresses given in EXTRA! are outside the LifeWay Internet domain. Because of the changing nature of the Web, EXTRA! editors cannot be held responsible for content on pages outside their control. At the time of this posting, the specific pages mentioned have been viewed and approved by the EXTRA! editorial staff. However, at the time of your viewing, the information on these pages may have changed. Links from the specific page addresses referenced in this material possibly could link to inappropriate material.

 


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October 21, 2007

The Heart of the Matter
Dana Armstrong

Matthew 5:21-32
 

Before the Session

 

Write the sins listed below on the board. 

Download Steps to Reconciliation and make copies for class members. 

Download http://www.lifeway.com/lwc/files/lwcF_PDF_ReconciliationCards.pdf

And make copies on cardstock, front and back on one sheet. Make enough copies for the entire class. Cut out.

 

 

Matthew 5:21-26

 

Enlist a volunteer to read Matthew 5:21-26.

Last week Jesus emphasized the importance of realizing our righteousness in Him, not our own self-righteousness. We are made righteous through His saving grace, and then because of His spirit living within us we are able to live justly. Here’s where it gets interesting. We can change our actions, but this is not living righteously. Being made righteous is a change of heart, only possible through Jesus Christ in us. Let’s take a moment and get to the heart of the matter.

Rate these sins in order of severity:
___ Murder ___ Slander ___ Gossip ___ Adultery ___ Idol Worship ___ Theft
Ask:
  • Why do you feel one is worse than the other?
    
  • Why do you think people rate murder above slander?
    
  • How are they the same? How are they different?    
    
Ask the class to define murder. In verses 21-22, Jesus brings the attention to the sixth commandment, “Thou Shall Not Kill.” The crowd probably was thinking only of physically murdering someone, until He expounded on the subject. The Old Testament focused on murder, and while Jesus agreed with the commandment, He disagreed with restricting it to the act of murder. What was revolutionary about His teaching is that He challenged everyone to look beyond the act of murder to the attitudes of the heart that can lead to murder. Jesus agreed that murder is a crime that deserves punishment; He also taught that anger was a sin worthy of judgment. In verse 22 He warns that anger against a brother is a violation of the spirit of the Sixth Commandment. It’s about the intentions of the heart.
Ask:

  • Have you ever been hurt by someone else and wanted to hurt them back?
  • Have you wanted to seek revenge? Maybe retaliate? Even had murderous thoughts?
  • Have you ever talked about someone because of anger in your heart toward that person?
  • Did you tear down their character? Perhaps murder their character?
     
Say: Not all anger is sin. Jesus was angry with the people who had turned the temple into a marketplace.
Righteous indignation, especially on behalf of others, is right. But, Christians sometimes try to excuse
their selfish anger as righteous anger. In verse 22, Jesus condemned the use of angry and abusive
words. The word Raca is a term to attach to a person’s intelligence, as in “empty headed, nitwit, stupid.”
The word fool is an attack not only on one’s intelligence but also on one’s religion and character.
Proverbs 18:21 says, “Life and death are in the power of the tongue.” Abusive words destroy people’s
spirits and sometimes life itself. Jesus continued teaching them that while anger and abusive words
are not tried in human courts, they will be judged and punished by God.
Reread verses 23-26 emphasizing “reconciled.”
Say: Because we have been reconciled to God through the sacrifice of Jesus Christ, we seek
reconciliation with fellow Christians. Reconciliation is always the goal when a relationship
has been broken, whether it is your fault or not. Reconciliation was so important to Jesus that He
told us to do it first, in verse 24, then return to offer the gift at His altar.
Ask: Why do we not run to reconcile relationships?
Distribute "Steps to Reconciliation" and go over the handout with the class. (Leader's Note: Do not
spend a lot of time on this, but read through, touching briefly on each step, before moving on.)

 

 

Matthew 5:27-30

 

Before you begin this section, pass out the following verses to volunteers: Proverbs 23:7, Proverbs 4:23.

Read Matthew 5:27-30.

Explain that in today’s society, we are bombarded with images and thoughts that lead us to forget the truths of God’s Word. It takes extreme effort on every believer’s part to make a conscious effort not to allow our thoughts or reasoning to be assimilated to the worlds. Sexual images mock us at every turn through TV, sitcoms, commercials, magazine pictures and articles, movies, and now through the Internet. Not only are we attacked with ungodly images, but our thought processes are challenged daily by the worlds view. Controlling our thoughts becomes more difficult everyday. We must choose to guard our hearts and minds at every turn. Jesus tells us that while we may not put actions to our impure thoughts, we have already committed the sin in our hearts. How convicting is that thought? He continued by telling if our right eye offends us, pluck it out. If our right hand offends us, cut it off. It is better to lose one member of our body than to lose our whole self in the offense. This seems drastic. But not if you think of it in that we should put away from us anything in our lives that tempts us, anything that causes us to stumble, anything that causes us to have impure thoughts. Then you may understand the meaning of Jesus’ words. We must act drastically in protecting our minds and thoughts from the attack of the world.

Ask:

  • What vices in your life cause you to struggle with areas of sin?
  • What habits or hobbies cause us to have thoughts that dishonor God?

Say: God sees all sin as equal. We are the ones who categorize sin.

READ OR PARAPHRASE THE FOLLOWING ARTICLE:
Christians Must Avoid ‘line’ of Temptation  by Jeff Robinson

LOUISVILLE, Ky. (BP)—Sex is a gift God designed to be acted out within marriage, but Satan tempts all Christians to misuse it in sinful ways, and they must be prepared to battle temptation, Charles Lawless told a group of college students recently at Southern Baptist Theological Seminary.

Sexual temptation is a universal struggle among people because God-given physical urges are a strong tool in the hands of Satan, Lawless said in February at Southern Seminary's annual Give Me An Answer Collegiate Conference. The conference theme was, "Does God Care About Sex?"

"We all struggle with the reality of our sexuality," said Lawless, dean of the Billy Graham School of Missions, Evangelism and Church Growth. "It is a gift that seems to haunt us because the enemy always wants to pervert the biblical picture of sexuality.

"The union of marriage and the beauty and perfection of marriage as God designed it helps us to see what the church is to be like and how God loves us. This is significant to God. We are to hold marriage as honorable and pure, so any sexuality that we are to experience is to come within the bonds of sacred marriage. Satan uses sexual temptation to distort the picture of Christ's relationship with the church."

The Bible gives parameters as to where the line of sexual sin exists, Lawless said.

"As Christians, we do know where these lines are because God has told us very clearly in His Word what His standards are," he said. "A part of the problem is we live in a world that says there is no line or that keeps moving the line."

Since God's Word makes the line clear, Lawless saidChristians know when they are making decisions and choices that are pushing them ever closer to the line. Pointing to Genesis 3, Lawless said Satan lures Christians up to and beyond the line of sexual temptation in four basic ways:

Satan engages believers in conversation. Just as Eve conversed with the serpent in the Garden, so believers are inching ever closer to the line of sexual sin when they first ponder sinful activities, he said.

"Our sin begins when we first start to think about that possible sin, when the enemy first puts that thought in our mind and grabs us." Lawless said.

"Sin begins when you begin to think about staying on the Internet a little bit longer and you click one more time in a certain direction or you read that unsolicited e-mail that you know by the subject line is going to lead you into trouble. You begin to think, 'I wonder if I should check it out?' You are engaging in conversation with the enemy, but you are not yet at the line."

Next, Satan leads believers to doubt or ignore God's Word, Lawless said. The enemy will replace God's Word with unbiblical thoughts such as, "nobody will know," or "you can always change your ways tomorrow," or "this is not going to hurt anybody else," Lawless said, adding that all such rationalizations cut directly against the grain of Scripture.

Satan then points the believer to what he or she is missing, Lawless said. While believers have profound eternal blessings in Christ, Satan will tempt Christians to locate ultimate pleasure in the "forbidden fruit," he said.

"When we cross the line we decide that the sin that we want, at least temporarily, matters more than every other blessing that God has given us: our health, our home, our family, everything," he said.

Finally, Lawless said, Satan wants believers who have compromised with sexual sin to flee to the secret place in shame-just as Adam and Eve hid in Eden following the fall. The very one who formerly enticed the Christian to sin now becomes his or her accuser, Lawless said, with the result that the fallen person spirals into worse sexual behavior.

"The enemy always want us to live in secret, to live in the hidden places of our lives," Lawless said. "He wants us to live in the depths of that sin so that it becomes more and more a stronghold. For example, sometimes the simplest pornography leads to looking at more extreme porn and then to even worse things."

But the bad news of Genesis 3 is accompanied by the good news of God's grace in Christ, Lawless pointed out. God came looking for Adam and Eve while they hid in the garden and, in His mercy, the Lord also seeks out His fallen children, Lawless said.

"He comes looking for us in our sin when in fact He would be justified to let our sin destroy us," he said. "When we find ourselves on the wrong side of the line we are not left alone there, but God in grace comes seeking us out."

While Scripture clearly marks the line for sexual sin, it also gives God's plan for overcoming temptation, Lawless said. To successfully battle sexual temptation, Lawless said Christians must:

Decide to seek the higher pleasure of serving God. Believers must decide that eternal pleasure is of greater value than the fleeting gratification that comes from sexual sin.

Get an accountability partner. Confession of sins to another person in line with James 5:16 will bring sins out of the closet of secrecy, he said. Lawless cautioned believers to take care in choosing an accountability partner; the person must not be a gossip and must not be of the opposite gender. In confessing sins, Lawless said a Christian must be specific regarding his personal struggles and failures.

Stay away from the line. Christians must make choices that keep them from moving in the vicinity of sexual immorality, he said. For example, a boy and girl in a dating relationship might decide never to be alone together in a car or a family might put its home computer at a place where it can be seen by other family members at all times, Lawless said.

Replace bad thoughts and mental images with the Word of God. Christians must read and memorize the Bible constantly to renew their minds, he said.

Repent and move on. If a believer has yielded to such temptation, he or she must repent and then rest in God's mercy.

Source: "Christians must avoid 'line' of temptation," from Florida Baptist Witness. 5 April 2007. Available from: www.floridabaptistwitness.com/7199.article

Say: While this article applies to the temptations with sex, the process can apply to any area of sin.

Ask: Why do you believe we do not pay attention to the first 3 steps Satan uses, and when it is too late we find we have fallen hook, line, and sinker for Satan’s plan?

Ask volunteers to read the two verses from Proverbs. Proverbs 4:23 warns us to guard our hearts above everything, and Proverbs 23:7 bluntly tells us “for as he thinks within himself, so he is.” Our hearts are precious and vulnerable. They are at the very root of who we are. At salvation we ask Christ to live in our hearts. We love with our hearts. When neglected, our hearts can become cold and hard. When hurt, it becomes bitter and angry. God cautioned us to guard our hearts at all cost, for it will reveal who we really are.

Ask:

  • What are you allowing to filter into your heart.
  • What sin or lie of the enemy are you allowing to take root?

Perhaps you are deep in bondage to an addiction no one knows about and it is eating you alive. You can be delivered from this sin. It begins with seeking God, seeking forgiveness, and making specific changes that will keep you from falling into Satan’s trap again. However, it doesn’t end there. This secret sin must be treated as any addiction and recovery steps need to be taken. Seek help from your pastor or a Christian counselor.

 

 

Matthew 5:31-32

 

Enlist a volunteer to read Matthew 5:31-32.

Anger and bitterness toward someone who has wronged you affects the heart in a way that your fellowship with God is broken.  Jesus addresses the issue of divorce here in verses 31 and 32.  Even in Jesus’ time, divorce was a controversial and complicated subject. Today divorce is as common inside the walls of the church as it is outside.  Jesus was not condoning or justifying divorce, but was giving clarity to an acceptable reason for divorce. In Matthew 19:9 the Lord again states that whoever divorces his wife (or her husband) for any reason other than sexual immorality is causing them to commit adultery, as well as their next spouse. In Micah 2:16 we read that “God hates divorce.” He doesn’t hate the people involved; He hates the sin of divorce.  Why?  Because He knows the effect it has on all those involved.  God hates all sin.  He does not, however, hate the sinner.

In an article written by Patrick F. Fagan, Ph.D., “The Social Scientific Data on the Impact of Marriage and Divorce on Children,” Dr. Fagan shows extensive research on the adverse affects on the children of divorce in the areas of self confidence, depression, security, income, education and future marriage. (See his article at www.heritage.org/Research/Family/BG1283.cfm for more information.)

While people often think that their actions and their sins only hurt themselves, they are selfishly refusing to look past themselves at those around them suffering from their decisions. Some people who initiate divorce talk as if it will be good for all concerned. They refuse to see the hurt and pain caused by their attitudes and actions.  God loves us and only wants what is best for us. He knows that divorce is not best for us.  However, as with every sin, He offers forgiveness for those who will seek Him.  He is a merciful and forgiving God who offers forgiveness when we chose our way over His way.  God knows that sin begins with our thoughts. 

Jesus was teaching in verses 21-32 that murder is more than the act of physically killing someone; it is an attitude of the heart and the thoughts that are entertained toward another person.  He taught us that we cannot offer true worship if we know of someone who has something against us.  We must go at that moment and make right the offense, whether our fault or not.  Then, and only then, can we experience true worship and fellowship with Him.  He finishes this lesson teaching those of His day to not justify their decision to divorce. Marriage is a lifetime commitment and He wants us to make every effort to protect this institution.  However, in these verses we find Him giving permission for divorce in specific circumstances.     

Say: This lesson boils down to one phrase, “the heart of the matter.”  How is your heart?  Are you harboring resentment against someone because of circumstances or actions against you?  Has God prompted you about a necessary reconciliation with someone?  Before we can be reconciled to Him, we have to first be reconciled with those who have offended us or whom we have offended.  Divorce is a difficult and convicting situation for Christians.  If you have divorced or have been affected by divorced parents, you understand the impact it has on our lives.  God wants us to evaluate our involvement with divorce, examine our hearts, make necessary reconciliation with Him over divorce, be forgiven and move on.  He also wants us to realize the impact our resentment, broken relationships, and unforgiveness has on our hearts and those around us.

Pass out the Reconciliations cards.

Read the verse on the card: All bitterness, anger and wrath, insult and slander must be removed from you, along with all wickedness. And be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving one another, just as God also forgave you in Christ" (Ephesians 4:31-32, HCSB).

Say:  Before we leave today, let us take steps toward applying what we have learned and discussed today. On the back of this card you’ll find three lines. God may be impressing someone on your heart right now that you need to forgive or reconcile with. Use this card to help you make those first steps.  Write their name or names on this card, put it in your wallet or somewhere you can see it often, and begin praying about what God wants you to do and when He wants you to do it.

Let’s pray together asking God to reveal those we need to reconcile with, areas that we need to examine in our lives that may be causing us to stumble.

Close in prayer.

 

 

 

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EXTRA! is a supplement designed to enhance and expand the effectiveness of printed curriculum provided by LifeWay Church Resources.

EXTRA! is produced by Publishing Services and Multimedia, LifeWay Church Resources, Copyright 2007, LifeWay Christian Resources of the Southern Baptist Convention.

SPECIAL NOTE: Some Internet addresses given in EXTRA! are outside the LifeWay Internet domain. Because of the changing nature of the Web, EXTRA! editors cannot be held responsible for content on pages outside their control. At the time of this posting, the specific pages mentioned have been viewed and approved by the EXTRA! editorial staff. However, at the time of your viewing, the information on these pages may have changed. Links from the specific page addresses referenced in this material possibly could link to inappropriate material.